Ghosting and blame-shifting in relationsships

Ghosting and blame-shifting in relationsships

Is ghosting solely an online dating phenomenon? By no means. Ghosting, this term refers to the sudden, radical, and often incomprehensible cessation of contact, which proverbially comes out of nowhere. Psychologists say that behind it usually lies an insecure, conflict-avoidant person who prioritizes their own feelings over those of the other party. And what about the “ghosted” partner? Is it

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How I learn to love myself – part five

How I learn to love myself – part five

To love myself also means to realize my onw needs and to express them towards others – without fear. Why is this such a big thing? For two reasons: On the one hand there is the difficulty to identify one’s own needs at all. On the other hand there is the fear of being rejected by the respondent. To stand

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How I learn to love myself – part four

How I learn to love myself – part four

Currently many things are crossing my mind. A lot of things are happening which I never considered possible before. Everything started at my occupational therapy. To my mind I have the best occupational therapist you can ever imagine. Approximately four weeks ago she brought a book and some cards with her. I hope it does not sound too presumptuous but

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How I learn to love myself – part three

How I learn to love myself – part three

I only know the Jojo-Effekt from magazines dealing with diets (fortunately I did not need one so far). At first, they say, the achievements of weight reduction are quick and motivating. But then follows the lean period. The progress in loosing weight slows down noticeably. Whoever does not posses enough power of endurance or does not believe in oneself might

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How I learn to love myself – part two

How I learn to love myself – part two

Today I go into the thick of things and dedicate myself to a particular difficult chapter on the way to love for myself: the inner critic. This awkward condition, that is how I want to call it here, is labelled in psychology as one kind of Ego-State. The persistence of the inner critic can be symbolized by a Donald Trump

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How I learn to love myself – part one

How I learn to love myself – part one

“The so called inner child” that is the name of a book written by the two psychologists Herbold and Sachsse. The title hints at the problem behind. Whenever a technical term penetrates everyday speech it is in danger to leave the path of a selective definition and is often being defamiliarized or being weakened or is being adapted to the

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